Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode–and into a Life of Connection and Joy

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In the wise and soulful tradition of teachers like Shauna Niequist and Brene Brown, therapist Aundi Kolber debuts with Try Softer™️, helping us align our mind, body, and soul to live the life God created for us.
In a world that preaches a “try harder” gospel―just keep going, keep hustling, keep pretending we’re all fine―we’re left exhausted, overwhelmed, and so numb to our lives. If we’re honest, we’ve been overfunctioning for so long, we can’t even imagine another way. How else will things get done? How else will we survive?
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Aundi Kolber believes that we don’t have to white-knuckle our way through life. In her debut book, Try Softer™️, she’ll show us how God specifically designed our bodies and minds to work together to process our stories and work through obstacles. Through the latest psychology, practical clinical exercises, and her own personal story, Aundi equips and empowers us to connect us to our truest self and truly live. This is the “try softer” life.
In Try Softer™️, you’ll learn how to:
Know and set emotional and relational boundariesMake sense of the difficult experiences you’ve hadIdentify your attachment style―and how that affects your relationships todayMove through emotions rather than get stuck by themGrow in self-compassion and talk back to your inner criticTrying softer is sacred work. And while it won’t be perfect or easy, it will be worth it. Because this is what we were made for: a living, breathing, moving, feeling, connected, beautifully incarnational life.

From the Publisher

SHANNAN MARTIN

Author of The Ministry of Ordinary Places and Falling Free

In Try Softer, licensed counselor Aundi Kolber walks us toward the gentle understanding that our scars hold clues to our wholeness. Life is hard. Pain finds us. But as we learn to pay attention to our full selves, patiently excavating compassion from the rubble of critique, we will all know healing. This kind, courageous book is right on time.

MORGAN HARPER NICHOLS

Artist and Poet

I knew that the moment I opened this book, I wouldn’t be able to put it down. Aundi Kolber’s words will meet you where you are, here in the present moment, shining light in the direction of connection and joy, in places where they are often a challenge to find. Her writing draws you into the depths as she gives you practical, grace-filled words of wisdom for every step. While reading this book, you will feel mirrored through Aundi’s beautiful way of giving language to our experiences. You will be met in the wild of where you are while also receiving the tools you need so you can carry on for the rest of the journey.

HANNAH BRENCHER

Author of Come Matter Here and If You Find This Letter

In a culture teeming with anxiety and feelings of being “not enough,” Aundi is the friend and guide we need for this present moment. Packed with a perfect blend of relatable storytelling and practical methods, this book will be one I return to and pass on to others. This is one of those rare lifelong reads you will pull out as a refresher course again and again.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Tyndale Refresh
Publication date ‏ : ‎ January 7, 2020
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Print length ‏ : ‎ 256 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1496439651
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1496439659
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.63 x 8.25 inches
Best Sellers Rank: #7,492 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #19 in Healing #88 in Christian Self Help #294 in Christian Spiritual Growth (Books)
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